March 16th update – It’s a month late and took the threat of legal action, but she actually made February’s payment (and the late payment penalty) to the loan she took out. It’s not much as the March payment was due today, but it is unquestionably a baby step.
Today has been one of those fascinating days that makes life so interesting. Friday my lawyers got a letter from my ex with a few questions and the usual money stuff to go along with identity theft. It just goes to show once again that if you use money to keep score you can do some very strange mental gymnastics to justify what you are doing. It’s very strange to watch. There was an additional call today with further information.
I spent an hour with my lawyer this afternoon going through the questions and our next steps to finally dispose of some rather pointless claims. Of course most of them are around money and I’d like to talk about a couple of them tonight.
This is the woman who said “I need you to make the mortgage payment in full for the house at the beginning of November. My regular unemployment benefits ended this last week and there is a lag while the federal extension paperwork is processed.“
She was fully employed when she wrote this e-mail.
She then agreed in writing to pay the $1140 to me in full by November 15th. Any one want to guess what happened when the 15th rolled around? Yep, nothing.
She does not want to pay her bills, and that’s what it is, but like all these things there are consequences to one’s actions. When her ex-husband did things this she condemned him as a total deadbeat. It was the same with his inablity to provide insurance for their kids, he was a deadbeat, and again I have these quotes in writing if she wishes to contest.
We are going to look at one more money thing tonight, my ex’s definition of “community debt”. On June 10 she with drew $14,000 from a joint account. She made the payments in June, July and so on through to November. Not only did she make the payment, she then promptly took out the principal to get the account back to a balance of -$14K.
This carried on until December when she decided she did not have to pay it anymore. I covered it in December and January, but after talking to the bank, having them follow the money trail they see it’s not my problem. She really is setting a big hole for herself. The money trail is easy to follow, it’s clear who created the debt and spent the money.
Unfortunately for her she has a very different definition of “community debt” from the law in Washington State.
So back to the letter to my lawyer, it said in part “I also requested that your client refrain from harassing by posting stories about her and her children on the internet and that he remove all past postings.”
For those of you following this story over the last year or more may see the hypocrisy in this request.
First, I’m rather insulted, I’ve never told stories. I give my opinion; tell things how I see it and today I very clearly stand behind everything I’ve written. She has been free and happy to accuse me of all sorts of things both in person and on the internet, from who I’m sleeping with through to abusing her children (remember she is a mandatory reporter, yet never reported it… Hmmm, full of shit? Perhaps). Not only was she happy to do this when it suited her she also had no spine and close to do it largely anonymously and even have other people do it for her. If you want to know more, I’ll get around to providing a few links some time.
She visits this site most days, on Feb 12th she spent an hour and visited 58 pages on this site. I would have thought she had better things to but, but apparently not. The following day I did removed all postings that name her. After getting some legal advise they will be moved back to public when I get the time.
If anyone knows how google works the more you search for a certain term (in this case her full name) and link it to a particular result (in this case my site) the higher that site moves up google’s rankings. One of my ex’s friends (hint as to who it is: they own a Blackberry) searches with her full name every day, almost without fail. In January she searched using that term 56 times. It’s almost like it’s deliberate to wind her up. It’s one of the dumbest things I’ve ever seen and it’s coming from one of her friends. I have a very comprehensive suite of analytics that record these things.
Last year our lawyers discussed issues with threats being made against me, she said I’d made some kind of unspecified threats against her and my lawyer proposed adding language to the restraint along the lines of “disturbing the peace of the other party, via the internet or otherwise”. She turned this down and refused to sign, as it was put to me at this time “apparently the complaints she had against you were not a big deal”.
The more we look through the paperwork and what’s going on the more holes we find in her arguments. The inconsistency and so on makes it all very difficult. I’m very lucky to have a lawyer who deals with it, who just takes care of it. Thanks Lorna.
Nothing I’ve had to say tonight is a story, nothing is fabricated, I can prove everything I have said here and once again stand behind everything I have said.
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[Comments removed] In one of the previous posts you said she can “be whoever someone wants her to be”, as someone who has been working with [redacted] I can do nothing but agree with that statement. She is professionally very chameleonic, happy to put down others to promote herself at their expense. {other comments removed].