It’s been a fascinating few days. My lawyer is Lorna, and she is a total professional and deals with the more drama filled part of my life. And it’s been interesting, in part because of the way she called what would happen.
There is a lot more about actions and choices made, but I’ll be sharing that at some time.
When this process started Lorna told me to be patient, that the system may take it’s time, but it works. That at the end of this it will all be taken care of. It’s taken a while for me to see it, but today I totally understand what she assured me all that time ago.
The side issues, the threats, accusations and promises of retribution are all irrelevant vapourware and today showed that
This morning Lorna was able to work directly with her attorney and get it all sorted in 15 minutes. I’m more than happy with today’s result, I got everything that’s important and I had a couple of things confirmed. She likes to show the world how smart she is and how much thinks she knows. The system does not care, the system only deals with the facts, however she would like to argue that.
This morning her laywer requested I stop using my ex’s name in my writing, her names does not appear on this site and it’s been a while. But I did say I will write about what is happening to me, and she said OK. Last year I got a couple of “anonymous” threats, as we should all know there is no such thing as anonymous on the internet. It really does not exist. These threats were all about me abusing her kids and sent by someone who should know better. Janette is a psychologist and works with at risk kids in Portland. She is what’s known as a “mandatory reporter”. If she suspects any level of child abuse she is bound by law to report it.
Yet Ms Higgins thought it was OK to accuse me of hurting children. I’d never work out who it was. She left a number of comments on my blog under the handle “davehasnofriends”. She wrote “You forgot to include how you are a sad fuck who will meet a sad end, pretend that you’re worthwhile, and physically abuse 10 year old that you try to compete with you worthless piece of shit.”
Only thing is the Internet does not work like that, there is no anonymity and Janette Higgins is an ugly fat troll.
At the time I emailed my ex to let her know that Janette was using accusations involving her kids against me. My ex responded by saying she never told Janette anything about her kids.
There is no grey area, the rules and expectations of a mandatory reporter are really clear. Yet strangely enough until now neither Janette or my ex ever made a claim, other than on the internet. My ex is currently working for a new company in Seattle under her maiden name, and I really I hope she is happy.
Google me and you come up with some horrific shit about me, an awful lot of it is flat out not true. If you want to know what happened, let me know.
One of the most incredible things that have come out of this for me is the community built around this and other blogs I read or contribute too. The community is incredibly supportive, and that support is the true story here. This society has changed the rules, attack and the community responds in many ways.
I’ve been cyber-stalked, threatened, targeted and so on. But at the same time putting myself out there on a public forum like this I’ve discovered I am more human than ever, and that reward has been huge.
I have a lot to be thankful for and perspective puts people like these into their right place. I know who I am, how I’ve changed and like who I am. The reasons behind that are many and varied, but it’s how I am today.
This site has led a lot of direct contact with the people, both in real life and virtually. I feel fortunate to have the life I have today, this summer has been tough, but in a glass half full moment, it’s been an incredible experience. The best answer to people like Janette is to continue to create and improve what I have. Life should be something incredible and after the last few years I see it so much clearer than ever.